As the new year rolls into 2025, we also welcome the start of a new generation: Generation Beta. This milestone has me reflecting on how having children challenges our world assumptions depending on how we grew up. Generational differences can sometimes cause conflicts within families. For instance, individuals born in generations where children were expected to be “seen and not heard” may struggle to connect with younger generations who may have been encouraged to express their emotions more freely. Similarly, parents who are not tech-savvy may find it difficult to relate to children and adolescents who can master new devices in minutes and often rely on these tools to connect with peers, complete schoolwork, and find entertainment.
These differences frequently surface in family therapy sessions, where both generations feel misunderstood, judged, and frustrated. The reality is that each generation faces unique circumstances shaped by the geopolitical, cultural, environmental, and technological advancements of their time. For example, when I had my son earlier this year, I realized how much expert advice about “safe sleep” practices had changed since I was a baby. This led to debates between older and current generations, each convinced their approach was correct. Another eye-opening moment was discussing the use of screens for children. Many parents remove screens as a form of punishment, often not understanding their child’s intense reaction. The challenge is that some children may not have been taught alternative ways of self-soothing or entertaining themselves—it’s like expecting someone to swim without first teaching them the basics.
I wanted to write this article to explore these intergenerational challenges and offer some solutions for families navigating them.
1. Compassion
When working with families facing generational conflicts, I aim to bridge understanding. Parents often need help recognizing how rapidly changing technology and social media have profoundly affected youth and their mental health. Conversely, I encourage young people to understand that their parents may not have been allowed to show emotions freely, which could have shaped their communication styles. This mutual understanding is not meant to justify harmful behaviors but to create a foundation for change.
2. Modeling Behavior
3. Open Communication
4. Adaptability and Learning
5. Setting Boundaries Collaboratively
Instead of enforcing rigid rules, involve your children in setting household boundaries around technology, behavior, and responsibilities. Collaborative discussions about rules help foster a sense of ownership and fairness, making it more likely that children will adhere to them. For instance, a family might agree on “tech-free” hours or spaces at home, with everyone—including parents—participating.
